How to know if it’s love

Thinking back on my past relationships, I must say , there was no love involved.

It is harsh but true . I’m not going to lie to myself anymore . I was choosing my partners and also they have been choosing me ,because we have had something we could exchange .

No. It was not exchange of love whatsoever. But I have moved past it , understood the lesson . I don’t blame anyone. Not even myself because at that time , I did my best , truly my best .

I thought that’s what love is … Well maybe it was love to some extent but not the love I know now . Not the love I feel for myself.

It was always conditional, never given freely , always in expectation of something from both side of course.

We settle for less , because we don’t want to end up alone . Then we end up in a relationships where we feel lonely , not understood , thinking our partner must take the role of our parents , mind reader, our pleaser etc the list is long .

For me this isn’t love . I want you to thrive and be in love with yourself and your life . I don’t want to control you , stop you , blame you . I dont want toxic behaviour to be explained as jealousy.

Love is pure . Love is magical. And if you give love with no expectations but purely because you can share what you have and you are happy for someone to experience it with you ,without hidden agenda . Nobody can hurt you , you can afford to share because you are full of love .

Be love . Love yourself. Spread the love everywhere you go . Remember… it’s either LOVE or FEAR. What will you choose ?

True love cannot be found where it does not exist, nor can it be denied where it does.

Torquato Tasso

True love 
Daily reminder

Honorata xoxo

9 thoughts on “How to know if it’s love

  1. Maybe if you can learn to live with yourself and like yourself, you don’t feel so alone anymore and driven into relationships of need. I’ve loved a lot of things, but I’ve never loved a person…I’ve liked a lot of people. Maybe love is a miracle you should be grateful for if it happens, buy not something you should expect? It’s also possible I was always too lazy to do the hard work of making love…buy can you “make” love? Perhaps alot of this is just confusion of terms…using words that have lost their meaning ❀️


    • Thank you for your comment πŸ™ I am alone but I dont feel lonely , love is all there is and I’m sure you loved , something , someone , experience you had etc love is miracle and thankfully we are all blessed with this miracle, even when we are not aware if it . Have a wonderful day x

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  2. Remarkable work & Oh…so… impressive πŸ‘πŸ‘Very brilliant this is my scope of practice you have been granted God’s Wisdom. I often refer to this as stage 3 Of
    “I Found Me” Your story only gets more intriguing from here. I’m SweetladyLove and I can surely tell you one thing if nothing else Love Is Real but people come hella fake!πŸ’ͺπŸ’•πŸ’ͺI’m so glad your on the right path. I’m not judging you one bit clearly speaking from the heart of someone who has been in your shoes and who now has Real LoveπŸ˜ŠπŸ’“πŸ˜Š Remember we are Queens & I’m here to help adjust your crown whenever it’s tilted without telling the world I did so. Feel free to contact me anytime.
    πŸ‘‰ Have a blessed night !

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