Look Beyond The Body ๐Ÿ‘ค

There is so much more to a person. Than the frame , the body we see and how they show themselves . What they promise and how they love us .

How they speak and behave when we start to get to know them . It is not about judgement and seeing wrong in people, but rather seeing your own patterns , and cutting away everything that doesn’t serve your highest good. Cutting i don’t mean ,judging them ,hating them and cursing them , just accept what you can’t change and don’t judge anyone , neither yourself

Having highs with someone is not healthy, having rough bed experience and calling it something we actually enjoy is rather self destructive. We are looking for pain because we find a pleasure in the pain , instead of being nurturing and having intimate experiences , by intimate I mean more of being vulnerable and opening your heart to the other person and not necessarily “legs” .

There is so many broken people, who think they miss something outside of them , who cherish other person above themselves, and see them as someone special and better. While we are all equal .

I understand and I know it’s a challenge for many people to just even believe that they can change something in their life , but all it takes is taking a chance on you this time and not putting yourself below anyone ,just being equal . I think it will build up very healthy relationship with yourself, as you will be able to see how much you deserve everything your soul crave so much .

One thing also comes to my mind , we often will pretend that we are healing and we need time etc and then we will entertain other things instead of working on the issues we have within us. The longer it will take for us to understand, where we stand and with what we are dealing when we focus on the unwanted , on the stuff which hurt us and make us feel like a victim to our own made circumstances.

I am just like you and We all deserve the love , peace, abundance and joy. We can achieve it ,because at the end the day it is all within us. Nobody can either take it or give it to you ,but yourself.

Is nice to be important but is more important to be nice Michael Mirdad

I Don’t Relate To You

I find it hard to relate with others, not because I don’t want to … but because I see what they rather not see. I don’t judge them yet I can’t agree and lie to them anymore .

Everything I used to believe in … that is non existent anymore.

Life has changed so drastically. I feel like I am the same person yet different in the way of viewing life and experiences.

This is so confusing at times .

Honorata

Don’t unintentionally hand over your freedom

From today’s Daily Stoic

MARCH 8TH

If a person gave away your body to some passerby, you’d be furious. Yet you hand over your mind to anyone that comes along, so they may abuse you , leaving it disturbed and troubled- have you no shame in that .

Epictetus, Enchiridion, 28

It could not be more true than that , we do not allow our body to be taken away from us . Yet we have no problem to give away hrs of pointless thinking ,quite often overthinking about other people, giving them power over our mind.

Making different scenarios of how we could handle the situation. While when the time was right to do it , we had not much to say . Now all of the sudden we have a comeback and we relive the situation in our head by hrs , days and so on .

We can’t change the past ,that’s for certain. But we can and we should change the perspective from which we look at them events.

You can try to be perfect , but you never will achieve that . It is better to live as flawed individual who loves the flaws and who know its that what makes him who he is, than cry over the fact that perfection is not something we can’t achieve.

We are absolutely perfect in our not so perfect ways. Flaws makes us humans , we learn , love, live and give as much as we feel . Don’t blame yourself for things you did in the past , only because now you know better . Back then you did what you knew better at that time .

H.

Have Faith In Yourself

I’m very down to earth person . I like peace of mind and no drama .

However I used to be a drama , when I felt like im not enough , usually that happened in romantic relationships .

We sometimes don’t even know how important it is , to truly take care of your own self . How to accept yourself, exactly as you are , without the need to change something every second of the day .

How to stop being the worst critique, hater and unhappy about our own self being . I know not everyone has that type of feelings, but this post is for the people who don’t feel enough at times, or maybe more than at times .

The only thing I’m willing to work on now , is myself , my own peace, well-being, health and happiness. I don’t even focus on being in Love or anything on that sort, if I find i friend , that will be a happy day for me , but for now I rather choose to be selective with my energy.

And one more thing worth to remember. You don’t own anyone anything, you own yourself everything.

Love H .

Stop Chasing

I don’t chase . I attract โค

Today I have really felt soo feminine . Totally at peace with myself, with my body . Loving the ones who loves me and appreciating the changes I see around me .

I have a friend of mine from few years ago ,who came back recently and we are back in contact, like everyday. I have thought that people don’t really change much, but the way he has changed , it’s unbelievable, it’s beautiful change and he is an amazing person , he has always been great but now what we have is a real connection.

Life might not always be easy on us . But it sure teaches us and show us that no matter what THIS TOO SHALL PASS ๐Ÿค

Happy Tuesday ๐Ÿ˜Š

Affirmations to BOOST Your Confidence

I trust myself, I believe in me and I have confidence in myself.

I am brave , I am bold , I am strong !

I deserve the best and I accept the best

I will not compare myself to strangers on the Internet

I can achieve anything I set my mind to

I am in control

I have endless possibilities

I am making my dreams a reality

I am in control of my thoughts, feelings and choices

I am courageous and I stand up for myself

Today is going to be a great day

Love & Light ๐Ÿ’• H .

SELF CONCEPT- BE YOUR OWN HYPE MAN .

You need to learn how to be your own hype man ! (Or woman in my case)

Of course it does not mean people will not cheer you up or not help you achieve some sort of good results , but if you own it and know that no matter what ,you have YOU ! YOU WON !

Way too often , we look on sides ( left and right ) to see if what we do , will be approved by others . The fact that we do what we love , doesn’t even come as close to be important as the opinion of someone else, where it should really be more about ,what we want to do, it’s our life and we should live it in the way we want .

It’s unfortunate that whether it is home related, parenting, relationship etc we try to seek some sort of approval from others .

We don’t need nobody’s approval to live our life . Quite often people will tell you to dim your light, just to fit in ,and for me thats definitely not the purpose of my life .

I have made so many “mistakes” in the past and to be honest , I should have hide and never speak again , believe me ,some of them mistakes try to hunt me , but thankfully I’m more aware than ever and I don’t let that slide into my mind for longer than a minute.

Last night was pretty challenging in that case , because it was like some sort of thunder in my head , where all bad memories were coming at me like crazy , and at first I thought ” what the hell is going on ” but quickly I recognised that I have triggered myself by affirmations.

Building new self concept ain’t easy ,let me be honest with you. You tell yourself I AM WORTHY OF LOVE and then memories from the past failed relationships comes in and be like ,oh you are not and its just going down like crazy , your mind brings back every single wrong thing you have done and try to keep you in that “comfort” .

I don’t want that comfort anymore . I’m building new ME and no matter how hard my mind will try to make me think of those past events , I know that eventually it will give up .

I’m behind the wheel now and I will not let myself get off track. Especially after last night, it was truly therapeutic and traumatic. I was constantly affirming, getting glimpse of past and then changing the narrative and explaining to myself, that no matter what it was , I was learning, experiencing and getting to know who am I. So at the end it was worth it .

Never give up on yourself. Seek within and you will get all the answers you need to move beyond limitations. โœจ

H.

A year ago

How much a person can change in a year!!

It’s truly have been a wild ride ,the whole 2021 but I am beyond grateful ๐Ÿ™ never would think i will be where I am mentally now . Sometimes we think we have been “fine ” all those years , just to look back and see the changes. Never underestimate small things . They are all we need to become the best version of yourself. ( I am work in progress but I love who I am and I’m not ashamed of myself one bit )
Don’t be a victim of circumstances, they do not matter . YOU MATTER ! plus whatever has happened, you created that shit , so take responsibility and change what you think.

Take small steps and look how your life will change . ยป Blursy Freestyle Writing

H.

I feel like sometimes it doesn’t really makes any sense .

I am kind and understanding

I am powerful human being

I am strong and brave

I face my fears and move beyond my limitations

I am truly myself now

I have been trying to fit in for so long

I have been clinging to things which put me down ,not realising I have the power to change it

There are days however, when I am doubtful of myself

When I’m impatient

Triggered by silly things

Don’t feel like I can trust anyone

Not worthy of love and so ashamed of being the person who can break someone else’s heart without even noticing the pain its causing.

The understanding comes often in waves and after some time . Usually its too late ,even to get a chance to apologise.

I’m full of joy and gratitude today and yet, memories of the past has creeped in now as I sit and relax , often I think , how long the healing takes , just to understand that each time ,we heal different part of ourselves.

I’m grateful for the past and people I have met and no matter where you are and what you do. I wish you well โค

H

Honorata Czestochowska
Honorata Czestochowska

Alone but not lonely ๐Ÿ’ญ

silhouette photo of man leaning on heart leaf shape tree during dawn
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Do you know that phrase ” If you are lonely when you alone ,you are in the bad company”? Do you like spending time all by yourself ? Or are you rather the opposite?

I’m the person, who loves her own company, I love to have time to think ,read ,listen to lectures and just to be all by myself. It brings me peace and calmness. I feel like im charging myself, every single time I’m by myself only .

But of course there are days ,when I want a friend by my side , its usually my sister ,we are very close and understand each other without words …who would think that my sister will be my best friend .. looking back at all the mean things we did to each other ,when we were just a kids , it’s amazing how everything is changing once we mature and grow up .

We start to see our siblings in a different way , more loving way , it doesn’t mean we didn’t love them before, but now we just not ashamed of that feeling.

I have 6 siblings , me as middle child , my mom had full hands with all of us for sure . But somehow, she managed to raise all of us , to become good human beings, I’m grateful for that, even though our life was not easy at times ,I’m still happy .

Today all I want ,is the happiness of the people surrounding me ๐Ÿ’ซ

I hope you have had an amazing weekend x stay safe and healthy ๐Ÿ’—

Honorata Czestochowska